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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, DH is most of the time on his laptop or cell phone.
He seems to be in his own world when conversations are going around in the house.
When I directly talked to him today about some gardening stuff, he just walked away as though I am not talking to him.
How to deal with this?
He seems to actively participate in conversations with his friends.
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Well, if he won't act like a grown man, you have two choices:

choice a) if you're wired like I am, and don't put up with disrespect (the fact that your husband actively participates in conversations with friends rules out a medical issue and points to selective non-listening when it's you doing the talking), then you can stop talking to him and write him notes with the barest essential that you need to communicate. When he asks you why you're doing that, you can answer: "You were disrespecting me by walking away without a reason while I was talking to you. I don't allow people to treat me that way. Are you ready to communicate in a normal, polite, respectful way?", and then you take it from there.

choice b) if you are amenable to putting up with his attitude, then you need to treat him like a child, because he's not acting like a grown man so he doesn't get treated like one. Follow him, put your hand on his arm or his shoulder, say his name and then add: "I am talking to you. Please look at me, acknowledge that I'm talking to you and listen while I finish. You can go take care of whatever you were going to do when we're done with this conversation."

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