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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry but this question is ridiculous.

IF your MIL "hates you" (which you cannot know is true unless sh told you so) than she clearly has her reasons (though they may not be obvious to you.)

Possible reasons why you think your MIL hates you:
1. She has a drastically different communication style that you are no used to
2.  She is trying to give you space and not be the "pushy" stereotypical MIL, and is just doing a bad job of it
3.  She thinks you hate her.
4.  You just don't have a lot in common.
5.  She is having a hard time adjusting tot he fact that she is not and never again will be the most important person in her son's life.

Possible reasons she might actually dislike you:
1.  You inadvertently or purposefully make her feel excluded from things she would enjoy
2.  You make comments about how "weird" or even "wrong" her family is and/or the way she raised her son.
3.  You encourage your husband to avoid interactions with her.
4.  You keep her away from her son/grandchildren.
5.  Your are snobby or bitchy.
6.  Your life choices conflict with her belief system.

Your MIL does not "hate you" for "no reason."

Why don't you have a conversation with her?[/quote]

MIL, is that you? You just proved the entire point of this thread!

And who on earth "keeps their husband away"?  You sound absurd. DH is a grown adult, who made his own way, and has a dwindling sense of obligation to you, because he sees your negativity, favoritism, fear of change, self indulgent and self serving ways, cold, bitter, jealous, depressed, anxious self as less and less appealing.  I can't imagine why.  :sarcasm:

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I gave examples of reasons.  They may not be good reasons.  They may not be justified reasons, but they are REASONS.  To think that someone *hates* you for no reason is absurd. 
And to the "keeping away" part, I know that on some level I keep him away from his mother. I tell him that he should not go see her as often as she wants him too, and as often as he would if I did not remind him about other obligations.  I believe I am in the right, but that doesn't mean that I am not a big part of the reason why she does not see her son as much as she wants to.[/quote]

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