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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your husband said he'd support you, I think secretly he wants you to take the job.

fair trade off considering he handled the load for 5 years

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OP here.  The salary is basically a wash since Im eligible for promotion in my current position and will soon earn 100k (raises are guaranteed yearly, per my contract).  The promotion would be much worse on him since I will not earn much more than I do now, but he will have to pick up a ton of slack at home since I will no longer get off at 4pm and do pick-up and start dinner each day.  He's actually a really good guy and wants me to be happy (he also earns a ton and was happy when I dropped out of the workforce entirely).   I am happiest as a working mom -- it's just figuring out where I fit in.

Thank you PP for you advice.  I think you are correct.  I love my current position.  Various mentors are pushing me into this new promotion -- it would disappoint all the people who advocated for me to get it (I never asked for it).  So there is an element of pressure to take it since it would be huge.  But I agree 6pm exit sounds awful now that I am used to leaving at 4pm and teleworking whenever I want.

Thank you, DCUM. [/quote]

OP, I don't mean to threadjack, but you are kind of my hero.  I, too, graduated from a top law school. I have 5 years of big law experience, plus two clerkships (district and coa). I am really considering taking time off to raise my children, but I am terrified that I will be shut out for good or relegated to very low paying jobs.  To what degree did connections play a role in your ability to return to such a cushy government job?  Is there anything you did (committees, bar association, write articles etc) while a stay at home mom that you believe made your return to legal practice at a high level more feasible?

FWIW, I would say not to take the promotion unless you plan to stay in the job.  People tend to look at you less positively when you take a step down and responsibility, even if you are returning to a previous position.  So, while you could presumably return to your old job, the esteem in which you are held might be diminished.  Better to stay put and not mess up a good thing, especially if you are not particularly chomping at the bit for this new position.[/quote]

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