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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Oh come on, Jeff.

You deleted my post and I'm crying foul (although I know I have no right to and that won't change your mind).

I gave a very reasonable explanation of why people might think that OP is fake. I did not call her names, and I was very polite. I even acknowledged that she may be legit! I merely explained why people might think she is fake and why she should not be enraged or surprised.

Your deleting it and shutting down an explanation as reasonable as any other for what is going on is a disservice to the 126 pages of posters who are invested in a thread and there is no harm exploring that as a possibility so posters can decide for themselves to stay invested in her or decide they've been had.

I can understand deleting posts that just read TROL!!!! but I didn't do that. I usually agree with your moderation, but I think this time, helping OP scrub her thread clean of doubters is a disservice to the rest of us.

I'm done now. As you can see from my posting history, I don't usually complain to you about your moderation.

The problem with your post, and why I deleted it, was that it was partially based on a false assumption that you probably didn't realize. You stated that nobody was calling the OP names but just questioning whether she was a troll. One could argue that calling a poster a troll is itself calling her a name, but more to the point, I deleted many posts calling her names. You appeared to be telling the OP that she was getting angry in response to legitimate questions when, in fact, she had legitimate reasons to be angry. The vast majority of those reading the thread appeared to be interested in the drama and didn't really care if it was true or not. The constant attempts to "out" the OP were distracting. [/quote]

Thanks, Jeff, for taking the time to respond to me.

I agree that one could argue that calling her a troll is itself calling her a name. I considered that, which is why I tried to say I didn't believe her, etc, rather than calling her a troll myself. For me, calling someone a troll is outing them for the act of trolling on a particular thread. It doesn't mean they are always a troll everywhere. In any case, perhaps I didn't choose my words well enough and you're right that there is another way to see it.

I was absolutely telling OP she was wrong to get angry in response to legitimate questions. I'm not sure why she has legitimate reasons to be angry at anyone who doubts her. Unless you are referring to the posts you deleted calling her names. That's legit, in my mind. I also agree that the constant attempts to out her were more 4chan or MeFi on steroids than DCUM.

Anyway, thanks again for letting say my thing and thanks for your thoughtful response. In our long, one sided relationship, I'm pretty certain this is the first time I've be swiped off a thread, so, really, I'll get over it and continue respecting this place.

I think you and Maria do a great job moderating and running DCUM.

Peace out.[/quote]

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