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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Just returned home. Having an anxuety attack, because I don't want to say the wrong thing. Spent this week working on trying not to be percieved as critical or naggy when I came home, but knowing I just get from DH whatever he is gonna do. I can never ask for anything different. We do have a counseling appointment this week.

Just thought I would share a few of things things as they come up. While we were gone, DH put ant poison on the sink DD washes her hands in. We keep a stool under it. She sometimes plays for a minute in the sink. The poison was completely accessible, bright orange, and in plain sight. Normally, I would have mentioned to DH that we probably wanted to hide it somewhere else. Tonight, I just wiped it off and will say nothing as to not be perceived as crticizing him.

It I would have said something, he would have loomed at me with a stone cold face like I was a nut. Before the fight, I would have just expected someone to say "oh, that didn't occur to me."[/quote]

Question for you. In the realm of "always thinks he's right" the examples you have given all have to do with safety of your child. Is that the only area where he makes errors that he refuses to correct, or are those just the type that you have given as examples.

I totally get how frustrating this is for you, OP, but I do also think, as PPs have pointed out, that you might have gotten yourself into a vicious circle with DH on communication. If you are also asking for him to apologize for all errors, even ones that have nothing to do with child safety, then he's just going to be 100% defensive 100% of the time and not be able to distinguish between "difference of opinion" vs. "legitimate safety concern."

I do think counseling would be super helpful for both of you to help change the dynamics of the way you communicate. Good luck.[/quote]

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