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[quote=Anonymous]My DH's parents divorced when he and his two sisters were in their late 20s.  His mother remarried.  Her husband has 3 children and a adult brother with special needs.  Two of the children are teenagers.  The extended family is all wonderful, but it really puts a strain on MIL and her husband to visit everyone.  There just isn't enough time and money to visit all the family throughout the year. And the teenagers, rightfully so, are a bit needier of time and attention.  So it just often seems like they get the majority of the time.  Finally, it doesn't help that they bought a house where his family, including his adult son and teenagers, live.  It will always just be skewed in the favor of his family.

Finally, to top it all of, DH's father is a big mess.  Financially and mentally unstable.  Highly functioning and refusing to get mental help.  But burning through retirement savings (at 59) and not working a full time job.  It is obvious why MIL divorced him, but ultimately, the stress of what to do with him and how to prepare for the inevitable outcome of his selfish behavior has fallen to his children.

My husband's relationship with his mother has never recovered because he felt like her ultimate choice was her own happiness at the expense of his own. Of course, he understands this isn't really fair to her.. and that she did deserve to be happy... but that still leaves him with the burden of his father.

Needless to say, there hasn't been a "home" for him in a long time.[/quote]

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