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[quote=Anonymous]DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR JOB WITHOUT SOME SORT OF POST-NUP!  I speak from experience as a SAHM mom of 10 years going through a divorce after 20 years of marriage.  My skills are out of date, I can't find a job, I am the sole custodial parent.  Trying to juggle kids and activities and a full-time job is nearly impossible.

The courts do not give alimony much anymore and provide NO/NADA/ZILCH/ZERO credit to you for your work at home and the sacrifice you made in your career trajectory by leaving your career to raise the kids.  So if you ever get divorced, you will get just a couple years alimony and then have to support yourself.

That being said, I loved being at home with my kids.  It was wonderful and despite everything, I don't regret it.  I just wish I knew then what would happen if we divorced (ex was having affairs with hookers).  I would have kept working at least part-time to stay more current and keep myself employable if I knew then what I know now.

In terms of a post-nup, I would ask for at least one year of alimony for each year you stay home AND permanent alimony of at least 50K a year (so that even if your job is not as lucrative as it was, you can still make ends meet and have a slightly better lifestyle than your current salary).  And, since this is not really reality (even though I would love it to be), I'd have a cheating clause added in.  If he cheats you get permanent alimony of X% of his income.

Alright, I am jumping off my bitter divorced lady soap box and heading out to pick up the kids.  If you think you'd like staying at home with your kids, do it!  It's the most fulfilling thing I have ever done in my life.[/quote]

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