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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]first off do most have maids?  We have a regular 5 bd 4 bath house and the maids clean it weekly.  they fold laundry, put away laundry too.  Its pennies compared to the headaches potentially caused.  After that its kitchen stuff.. we split the cook+ clean up... kids unload the dishwasher.. The hubby typing here takes out the trash and plastic.. after that its mostly just getting the clothes in the washer in the first place[/quote]

OP Here - 5bdrm/3.5 bathroom. Plus basement with rec room, bedroom, bath, etc. But, that's pretty much the kid-zone. I rarely go down there unless I want to have an anxiety attack. We don't have a maid. DH does the typical "man" stuff, taking care of the trash, outside stuff, fixing things, etc. I have no problem doing the bulk of the day to day stuff. My "issue" (which as I already said isn't a major marital problem) is when he swoops in when I'm basically done and claims he helped.

It'd be akin to if when he cut the grass, and I do the mower for the final row and then tell him the week after that I helped him cut the grass. No I didn't!

And when he cleans, he is good and thorough. But, that only happens when I'm sick, or the kids are sick, or I'm not home. Basically, if I'm incapacitated and not physically there, he will do it and do it well. It's just when I'm there, he seems to not notice me cleaning? I don't know. The more I think about it, the more it seems he's oblivious/clueless. I just don't want to turn this into a nagging thing of me going to get him from whatever he's doing to help me. In fact, I would be perfectly fine with him NOT helping me! Just stay out of my way and let me finish by myself without your "help". I seriously wouldn't be annoyed by that.[/quote]

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