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What I get from reading this is that the OP has not been given more details, that she is just expected to accept "medical emergency" as the reason for a fourth gift of a large amount of money.

If you have it to give, do so. Be sure to let them know, however, that your reserves are now officially wiped out. Give, for this last time.

When asked again (because we know there will be another catastrophic car need or house damage accident or something), explain that your four gifts of X, X, X, and X amounts (totaling XXXX) wiped you out and suggest two things, like a bank loan or a local social service agency, insurance, or whatever.

Commiserate in the future, but no more giving. Unless you're truly in it for the long haul, and you're okay with this set up. Even then, moving forward, offer to make direct payments. For example, child X needs braces, wisdom teeth extracted, whatever. Fine, what's the dentist's name, I'll send a check out today. Accountant said I'd face tax liability if I kept making checks out to you and not claiming you as a dependent (or something that sounds authoritative, if entirely inaccurate).

Call the bluff by maintaining that your hands are tied---either because you've been wiped out by past gifts or some accountant/audit/thing has instructed you thusly.

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Or just say no.  That also works.   :roll: [/quote]

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