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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why didn't you discuss religion as it pertains to your future children before you got married?[/quote]

We have discussed it just not in very great detail. We know we will celebrate christmas and eid and have a christmas tree. we have talked about introducing the children to both mommys faith and daddys faith. [/quote]

Yeah, this is basically not discussing it.[/quote]

okay. what else should we talk about?[/quote]
I'm assuming this is the OP.  I am the earlier poster who is married to a Muslim man.  The upbringing of children is an explosive subject so it is in your best interest to discuss this.  Typical questions:

What will the children be raised as? Understand that if you are saying that you will introduce them to both faiths, then you aren't raising them as anything. That's a valid choice but recognize that this is the choice you are making.

Will the children be allowed or expected to attend a mosque/church? On which occasions? Who will take them? Will the other spouse be expected to attend or just not to interfere? Will the other spouse have the power to ban a certain mosque/church?

What, if any, religious education will the children undergo? Will the other spouse have the power to influence it? What, if any, control will the other spouse have over the religious education of the kids? What, if any, responsibilities will the other spouse have toward facilitating the religious education of the children?

What holidays will you celebrate?

Will there be pork or alcohol in the house? Is the other spouse expected/allowed to consume pork and alcohol? Outside or inside the house? In front of the children or never in front of the children? Will you maintain a halal household? Are the children allowed or not expected to keep halal outside of the house?

What, if any, influence will the religion have over the social choices your children are allowed to make? Conservative Muslim families do not encourage certain friendships. Are your children expected to marry within the faith or not? Are your children allowed to date at all, and if so, what is the extent of it?

There's so much, OP.  You need to think about this if you intend to procreate.  We did. [/quote]

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