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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even if people don't like to host in their homes, they should definitely invite you out to a restaurant to reciprocate.[/quote]

This is what we do.  We just don't have the space in our condo for this - but we would invite you out to dinner to reciprocate.

That being said, I think OP needs to change her mindset.  You don't know what goes on in other people's lives.  Maybe they are poor, maybe they have a marriage on the rocks, maybe a sick relative at home.  Who knows!?  But, to put your belief and cultural system onto someone else - seems unfair.[/quote]

I am not sure that this is a "cultural belief" that when someone opens up their home to you and shows hospitality, the polite thing to do is to reciprocate [b]in some way[/b]. It seems that you do this by taking people out. Others have other ways of reciprocating. Just something to make the other person feel valued and appreciated. 
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Well, I'm not from this "culture" so I am very careful not to impose my standards on others (as it appears OP is doing).  While it is polite to reciprocate in some way, OP seems fixated on being invited over to other peoples homes or "counting this for that"

Where I am from, you give not to receive but because you enjoy giving and cherish your friends.  That may not be the custom where OP is from or here in the US.  It seems here you keep a score card on who gave what to whom and how much. [/quote]

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