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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like there is an epidemic of this. Both work full time but the woman is stuck with the third shift. I know it's a problem in my marriage. [b]In my case, it's magnified by the fact that DH earns 4x what I do - though our jobs are equally demanding. [/b]

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OMG, yes.  My DH does help out quite a bit, but it's frustrating that all my hard work is minimized due to my comparatively small salary.  My job is much more difficult/hellish/demanding, but pays less than half of what his does.  Still, it's necessary for me to have it in order to pay our bills.  Meanwhile, I feel like it gets treated like some kind of hobby because he makes so much more money.  Dude, DH, if I could afford to quit, I would, but we both know I can't, so drop the belittling attitude, please.  You knew going in what I did for a living. [/quote]

NP. Same problem in our house. [/quote]

I'm the first poster. I think this is probably a common problem - but what is the solution?  I DO think his job is more important because our family would be fine without my job but screwed without his. I just feel worn out by the lack of equity re domestic stuff. We outsource a lot of household work (cleaning, yard) but what is killing me is that no way no how does he get up with the baby. The baby is one and is just a terrible sleeper - currently waking 2x a night because has a cold. UGH. After a year of no sleep I'm turning into such a bitch. [/quote]

And just to vent a little more, I also feel worn out by the "obligation" to stay slim/toned/highlighted/fashionable. It's all such a damn lot of work - while he gets to have some chub & run his fingers through his hair and roll out the door.  But again, what's to be done? I don't want to "let myself go" . . . I'm just struck by the fundamental unfairness of being female basically.

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