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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. My advice is for you to spend three nights a week doing something completely outside of the home. Take a class, go to a cafe, or gym. Whatever it is. Leave you husband alone to get your daughter fed, cleaned, and asleep.

He is going to screw this up. It's going to be mess. And he's bitch and complain. But here's the thing about a lot of guys, they won't take the initiative unless they are alone with their children because they feel like they are clueless and don't want to screw up in front of you.

Explain that you are taking a "mandatory class on T-W-TH" and won't be home until 8:30. See what happens. He'll either step up and will improve as a parenting partner or will be a hot mess with no effort or attempt for improvement in which case you know this and can take the next steps necessary to move on to a life of single parenting (since you already are).

As for connecting with your DH, put that to the side for the moment. Try to fix the parenting/partner issue. That may lead to better in roads.[/quote]

I think this is a great idea.  I remember my husband used to always complain that I never cooked.  He was doing 100% of the cooking for the household.  It wasn't because I was lazy but because I was a horrible cook and I had failed at it in the past and was scared to try.  Well my Dh got a job that required working late in the evening on some nights and it forced me to cook (I bought a bunch of cookbooks and watched food network) or be stuck with take out which I didn't want the kids loading up on so I had no choice but to learn to cook and now I love cooking and am so much better at it.  He just needs a chance to build his confidence in the areas where he is failing.
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