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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. wow.  I didn't think asking for support in a rough time was asking too much from a spouse.

And i think it's abusive because there has been coldness and lack of empathy for a long time.  This is a small specific example of the way I get treated, whether asking for something or not.

But this gang shift in blame to me - that I did something to cause it- is very interesting.

Not much of the snotty comments are insightful to me, but say a lot about the posters.

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OP, there is not a whole lot of info to go on, but this sounds a bit like the dynamic that happens with people who have a loved one with a personality disorder. The coldness and lack of empathy with you and the charm and different personality with others also fits.

Go take a look at "narcissistic personality disorder" and "borderline personality disorder".

I disagree with what most posters have said. There are too many assumptions that you have been excessively needy, but I didnt read it that way, because I have been in a long marriage with a man just diagnosed with Borderline, and it explains all the weirdness Ive dealt with for far too long. I am FAR from needy, but the fact is he cared about NONE of my needs and I mean NONE in ANY amount. This was not how it began, but how it warped over time.

Also catching my eye is the term abuse. I think you might be referring to manipulation. This is what personality disorder people do and its very disorienting. Over time it can become abusive, it did in my case/ Terrible emotional abuse. But began with neglect and eventually morphed into a total lack of empathy, physical bullying and menacing. Horrifying.[/quote]

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