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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lesbian here — I took my wife's name, and I love it. I really wanted the whole family to have the same last name. I still get a little thrill every time I sign it – but being prevented from getting married for 15 years can do that to you, so possibly not the same situation. :-) In any case, it really does simplify traveling and stuff with our kids.

Change your name if you can do it[b] as an act of love and commitment towards your family.[/b] Don't do it if you feel like you have to, because you definitely don't.[/quote]

This is my view as well. We are a single family unit and I want all of our last names, including mine, to reflect that. I'm so happy to have married into my DH's family line and I am proud to have my name reflect that. Other people's choices are equally valid and should be made for their own reasons that they feel strongly about. I don't get the judgement on this issue.[/quote]

But if you don't take his name it does not mean you are in any way less committed to your family. Agree with the PP who said she admired her mother for keeping her name[/quote]

Of course it doesn't, and I apologize if that's the way my words came across. My point was supposed to be that I personally viewed the name change as a symbolic way of marking that commitment for myself -- I tend to be a pretty sentimental person and I look for little rituals or traditions to find meaning in -- but that if that's not the way others feel about what changing the name would mean to them then they should make a different choice for reasons that are important to them. [/quote]

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