Reply to Worried I will be supporting my troubled (adult) brother

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Worried I will be supporting my troubled (adult) brother "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he isn't on disability and has never held down employment then i have to assume your parents have been enablers.  I know of a few families in this predicament and the parents often have enabled the adult child's behavior.  This is not your fault.  The best thing for you to do is to communicate to your brother that you will NOT be supporting him or helping him after your parents die.  Make sure he gets you're serious.  He has probably talked your parents into supporting him throughout his life and wont take your talk seriously.  Youn need to make sure to be clear that you aren't your parents. [/quote]OP, this is important advice. You should also try Al-Anon for friends and family of alcoholics where you will get support when your parents pass away. You will need help working through this.

My brother became disabled and my sister and I supplemented his income for three years until he died. We thought he had been sober for the previous ten years but we discovered that that was not the case. I went back to Al-Anon when I realized he was drinking again because I knew I would have to cut him off financially if he didn't get into recovery. He passed away not long after he left rehab for the last time. My Al-Anon group was a great support during that time and has continued to be helpful as I work through my feelings about his death.

I should add that my brother was unable to quit drinking and going to Al-Anon won't make other people quit drinking but it will help you.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics