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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does he say when you point out what he's saying, per the examples you gave?
Is he receptive? Does he say it again in a better tone?
If he does, that is probably the best you can do between the two of you
Are you concerned he does this to others and want to help him with that?
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To answer you first two questions, he justifies his tone by explaining why he was irritated, impatient, etc. His justifications are spoken in a measured tone, I'll give him that. :) He's not a yeller, it's more of the tone and delivery, not volume.

And yes, I'm concerned about how he speaks to others and would like to help because he can't be received well.

Other pp, thank you for the American Management course rec. I'll check it out.[/quote]

It's great that you don't put up with this way of speaking to you. That's the first and foremost thing.

On the issue of how he speaks to others, I am torn. On one side, I want to say you're not his mother and to let him suffer the natural consequence of his actions, i.e. people won't want to interact with him if they're spoken to in a rude or condescending way. On the other hand, the crux of the matter, I think, is that you have a child together. No way should your child get the idea that what Daddy does is ok, or you'll have a very rude, widely disliked child on your hands. And trust me, your children *will* imitate Daddy. That's why I'm inclined to say you should put it in terms of not wanting your kid to pick up bad manners from Dad, and tell in no uncertain tones to your husband that he needs to get help for that issue.[/quote]

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