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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone who has a destination wedding better be prepared to be gracious about any regrets sent.

Now if money isn't the issue, then the twins may have a better time than you expect they will so I wouldn't reject the idea solely because you think they can't deal with the travel. But if it's a financial strain, don't think twice about going alone. [/quote]

+1.  If they were really that concerned about your kids coming she would pay for the flight or offer a driving location.  We considered a destination wedding but I knew my family did not have that kind of money.  Grandparents on my side would likely not have come unless I paid for their airfare and they had a family member traveling with them.  Either we factored that into the cost of a destination wedding or we were fine having a wedding without them there.

PS stay strong.  My kids were flower girls in an out of town wedding. I easily spent several hundred of dollars and jumped thru lots of hoops and stress.  During the super long rehearsal dinner and the pictures and wedding I had to make sure that all the kids in the wedding (not just not my own) were not going crazy even when they were bored.  I barely got to enjoy myself.  But, for a one time event for family, I did it because the kids were so excited to be involved.  The thing that got me was that I didn't get so much as a thank you and hug from the bride after all this, no acknowledgment at all.  Not even one of the professional wedding photo with the kids...not even a copy of a photo.  If I had felt guilted into doing it and hadn't been doing it for the kids I would have been done.

So don't do it unless you think you can make a vacation of it with your DH and twins and can afford to so or can say with 100% certainty that you want to spend the money to have your children there even is they end up cranky and off schedule and your sister is a complete bridezilla.[/quote]

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