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[quote=Anonymous]It is your husband's sister and he is the one who needs to do the communicating about her future plans with her.

It took my sister  over a year to find work while she lived with my parents.  She would send a whole bunch of resumes for jobs and only hear back from a few - very sporadically. She was still going out clubbing, shopping, being with friends etc.  My parents were supporting her 100%, from allowance to paying for all her expenses. From the outside it would have looked as if she was partying - but in retrospect I am happy she did that because she would have become depressed otherwise. Within a month of getting a job though, she moved out to live independently.

I guess, it is easier to be dependent on your parents vs.your married brother.

I would suggest that you only provide her your unconditional love and support.  Let you DH, sit with her and help her in the job search.  He needs to do it patiently, lovingly and by being supportive.  If need be, spring for some courses in CC so that she can have more options. Ask friends around who can give her internships etc.  She is lost and scared and she needs some serious support, but she will be ok in the end.

Op, you need to just be a pillar of strength and bite your tongue.  Her situation will change one day, but what you don't want her to ever remember about her stay with you is that you were not supportive.[/quote]

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