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OP - It is important that you and your husband are on the same page with SIL so talk to him first and mention general ideas here.  Then start a conversation with SIL that for her benefit how is she feeling and where does she see herself heading?  Then maybe do a paper and pencil exercise of what her goals are and what would be steps to get there.  Important ideas are though:

- Physical with a doctor if she has not been to one in a year or two to rule out any health condition which could mimic depression.

- Women's Center in NOVA might be an excellent resource for a counselor to evaluate her or even see her on a sliding fee scale.  They may also do counseling specifically job related.   If her folks are still alive, she could actually be on their health policy, and you might ask them about doing so, especially if psychological counseling is going to involved through age 26.  And then even if married, with COBRA till age 29.  **This would be the best gift they could give her now rather than money in the future.

- Or can DH navigate the Obamacare web site to see if she can qualify for a lowcost health insurance plan.\ as this si key to help her avoid debt.

- Setting up a daily routine is also key to start to get herself together and up and out and I would aim for a goal of the morning whether for physical fitness - maybe as a gift to help her get started a short-term membership in a gym.

- Secondly would be to get her up and out to volunteer in a nonprofit related where she might use skills she has learned and/or pursue some area she might be thinking about.

- Starting with those two ideas along with some counseling for a time period would be a start.  Then I agree that at her age she could do very well as even an evening or weekend sitter to build earn money to build up an emergency fund, a deposit for her own apartment in the future or for tuition to go back for specific training in a job field.  It would also help to get her a current resume at least of character, responsibleness etc.

It is a hard age especially if she was fired and her self-esteem shot down, but you are right it is too easy to get off the merry-go-round of life a times.[/quote]

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