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[quote=Anonymous]I disagree with PP. Love does not exist between people, it is in person's heart. And it doesn't stay the same over the years. If you've been married for a while, you will know that the feelings 10 years later are not the same, but it is still love. And it is only get better and stronger. I read somewhere that it goes in 5 years cycles. Maybe OP just in that time when everything got changed and she is not adapting. I would give yourself some time. Don't get irritated with husband's behaviour, just observe it. Staying in marriage without love is not beneficial for kids. They see it, they feel it and they learn from your relationship. You may end up raising kids with a wrong understanding of man-woman relations and it will affect their lives and ability to love tremendosely.

See if you have any love in your heart at all. Not toward your husband, but general love: to love yourself, to love the sky, new day. Try to develop that feeling. Love is the light. And it is contagious. You will be surprise to see how it changes the most grumpy guy. Don't hold any expectations for his changes though.

To bail out and to divorce is the easy escape. To try to work out and learn your own heart is harder. From what OP wrote,  I don't think that the open marriage will work for you.

OP, you wrote that your views changed. Can you tell how exactly they changed? All people grow up and change several times their life's perspectives and even religions.

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