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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you paying her or is it free childcare? If it's free, I guess you get what you pay for.  What does she get out of it except enjoyment of your kid? Does she also help out around the house? You have to put up with her if you're not paying her.  For your own sanity, you need ground rules and she needs to back off when you're home. But what else is she supposed to do with herself if her whole life is taking care of your kid and she sees your kid more than you do? Now she's the expert on your kid.  I sort of feel like you don't have much room to stand your ground when you're getting a very good deal here.  If you want more freedom with your kid, then hire a stranger.[/quote]

OP here. We are not paying her, she volunteered to watch the baby to help out. She retired last summer and has nothing better to do with herself. You're probably right about the baby being too much of her life, I agree, but she does not see more of my kid than I do and she definitely is not an expert on anything about my kid. For one, this arrangement just started recently; for two, I sometimes work from home and get to see the baby throughout the day; for three, whenever I am home and not working I take over baby-care. Hence the "wresting away" comment I made. But you are also right in that I'm getting a good deal, I'm lucky as I stated at the top of my original post. That's why I was looking for advice on standing my ground while still respecting and appreciating the good things she's doing with us. I do appreciate it, but her helping us out doesn't give her carte blanche to have 24/7 access to the kid and no boundaries. That line is what I am seeking.[/quote]

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