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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As others have said, it seems to be time to move along. This man was honest with you when he said he did not want an exclusive relationship, and you were honest with him when you said you did. As hard as it was to part ways, it was the right thing to do. Him coming back into your life but still not wanting to be exclusive is pretty selfish, especially when he knows you want more than something casual. At the same time, if he came back and said "I still want to see you, but not exclusively" and you agreed, but feel bad about it, you kind of put yourself in that position. I would take this last dalliance as a bit of fun and stop seeing him, this time for good. Thank him for his time and honesty and for the fun you've had with him and wish him well. And then focus on finding great guys who do want to be in a serious relationship like you want to be in.

OP, you strike me as a smart and thoughtful woman who is very self-aware. I bet that you are exactly the type of woman many men would like to be with. Go start the new year fresh and find those great guys. The man in your life sounds attractive and fun, but he's not going to be a long term guy for you, and he has told you that straight a few times now. He's not mincing words and there is nothing to interpret other than the statement he has made. Take it at face value as hard as it is.

I have been in your shoes and know how hard it can be to make and keep these decisions, but in the long run, you will be better for it. I promise.[/quote]

OP here.  Thanks for this post.  It is what I needed to hear.  In my head I knew that I should have ignored him when he contacted me after I specifically told him I wanted to move on.  I stupidly went right back to him  - I did this to myself.  I need to get to let him go for good again.  Thanks all.  I have to get out of my house (and my head) today.  [/quote]

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