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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- this makes me ask what were the reasons for his divorce? Was he dating then too. What would his ex-wife have to say about why they divorced? This guys is showing some truly ugly things that are going to just come up later and bite you. Don't be one of "Those" women who get in a relationship and down the road when it is falling apart you look back and go "Ahhh...that really was a sign that he would do this and that". Be rid of him and be glad you dodged a bullet. [/quote]

How the hell did you come to this conclusion?

He was open and honest about what he wanted.  She stayed and played along.

He didn't lie to her.  He didn't "cheat" on her.  He didn't manipulate her.

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He told her he wants to date outside of her and doesn't want a commitment. He didn't just learn that behavior yesterday. This has probably been an on going thing with him. I bet if she looked into it more she would find out he has always been like this and will never change. Your right he was up front with what he wanted so it was her choice and now she doesn't like the choice she has made and needs to dump him before she gets the big "STUPID" label stenciled on her forehead.[/quote]

You really love jumping to conclusions.

The guy is divorced and isn't trying to get in to a serious relationship.

What do you get from that?  "He has probably always been this way"....."He didn't learn this behavior....".

It isn't a learned behavior.  It is WHAT HE WANTS.  You can't accept that can you?  It has to be some sort of 'issue' with him or be looked at negatively.

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Well, there actually is an issue that should be considered a clear negative. She said she wanted one kind of relationship; he said he wanted another kind. She ended the relationship because their objectives differ. Mature way to handle the relationship issue. Instead of accepting the end, though, he re-initiated. Nothing had changed, he simply wanted to gratify his needs despite the conflict with OPs needs. Sure, he's honest about wanting what he wants. Great. Honesty is great. He's being honest about disregarding OPs needs because they don't suit his needs. That's not great.[/quote]

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