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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, we live far away and if the holiday wasn't at her house then she wouldn't be able to be together with all of us. Who can you hire on Xmas Eve/day to stay w/ my father?I said hosting she didn't have to do much and I or DH could have done mostly all of it but she does stuff weeks or days in advance. We did have some food catered. Yes, early onset Alzheimer's - he's 64. It's been a year he's been bedridden. He gets VA benefits and SS disability. Their house is paid for so my mother would probably be ok financially if she decided he needs to go to a nursing home. And yes, maybe I'm a bit overwhelmed and sound like an ungrateful bitch. [b]Only child too so this all falls on me. [/b]No siblings to support each other emotionally.[/quote]

Except it doesn't, since you're far away and your mother is struggling with it. And didn't you say you had a sister?
You may soon be part of the sandwich generation if you decide to care for your parents as well your children. Then you will have my full sympathy.
In the meantime, plan for that moment rationally instead of feeling needlessly put-upon. You sound immature for your age.
I'm an only child, my parents are 64 and my entire family lives in Europe. DH and I are planning for when my parents need care.
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