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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ILs have offered to watch 2 year old DD while DH and I go on holiday for 3-4 days.

ILs are in their mid-70s, not particularly active, both have health problems  [b]If their inactivity and health problems will prevent them from taking care of your child, then you can't leave your child with them.  By this, I mean, unable, not simply being slower than you and your spouse or less active, but unable.[/b]

, and their home is full of fragile (glass) and heavy items at child level that they never put away when we visit.  [b]unless you are aware of actual danger, I think it's crazy to think in terms of too many "what ifs".  No two people child proof in the same way.  I never child proofed at all and we never had a single accident due to the stuff I left out.  [/b]

They're forgetful,   [b]and, so what?[/b]

they don't follow our rules when DD stays with them (meaning, naps, bedtime, the type of food we prefer), and even if we left them with a schedule and brought fresh foods or prepared fresh foods with us for DD, they would not give them to her.  [b]no biggie.  Your child won't starve and when you get her back, she will easily go back on schedule.  Kids are so adaptable.  [/b]

I'm just not comfortable with this.  [b]This is your real issue.  The other stuff is just attempts at justification.  Sometimes it's a good idea to stretch your comfort level because it's good for everyone in the long run.  It will be great for your DD to have these times with her grandparents.  It will be great for you and DH to be able to have time alone.  You likely will never have anyone else who loves and cherishes your DD this much offer to care for her.  [/b]

Do I just deal with it and let them watch her so we get away or should we just go on holiday with DD (which would be fun, I think, she's at a lovely age!!)? [b]do both.  It isn't an either or or.  [/quote][/quote]

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