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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why didn't you ask her for help? Just be direct, and polite.  People aren't mind readers, especially college kids.  [/quote]
Because we didn't have the money to pay for her hourly rate and if we asked we'd had to pay. If she offered we'd def tip her but not pay as much as she charges - 22/h for 2 kids. [/quote]

Tbh that's a pretty terrible attitude OP. You've set up a business relationship with this cousin, and I think that needs to trump the family connection. I'm a nanny, and I help my sister with her kids for free all the time, but that is because we're family and we're close and she never expects anything from me. But if I had a more formal working relationship like you have, I would be very aware that offering hours for free could be a very slippery slope towards being taken advantage of.

She may have known since October about the surgery, but she probably assumed you would either ask her to work those hours or schedule more affordable help or closer friends/family to help out. When you didn't ask her, she made other plans, totally reasonable IMO. [/quote]

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