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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you would put as many hours into your marriage as you do your job you would be better off. I never get it, why people work so much and let the important things in life crumble.

When was the last time you heard the dying guy say, I wish I had worked more??????????????[/quote]

I haven't ever talked to anyone on their death bed, but I have heard many people, young and old, speak of their regret in not living up to their potential.  The best way I know to do that is to work hard and achieve.  I absolutely make time for my husband and kids (i'm the 70-hour a week PP who went to counseling in the mornings with my husband), but my career is important to me.  And it's important for my kids to see professional achievement by their MOM.  Times have changed, but the glass ceiling hasn't crumbled yet.[/quote]

I have never met a kid who said "thanks mom for working those 70 hour weeks.  It made you a great example for me".  I have heard LOTS of kids say "[b]my parents weren't around for me[/b]".  If you want to work, fine.  If you need to work, fine.  But don't pretend that you worki a 70 hour job for the sake of setting a good example for your children.  [/quote]

But their kids sure loved living in a nice neighborhood and having the money for family vacations.  Or would they have rather lived in a beat up area with crappy schools?[/quote]

You know, maybe this points to a problem in our society.  The choice shouldn't be "work normal hours and live in a beat up area with crappy schools" or "work so many hours you don't have down time with your family but be able to give your kids an education."  Am I the only one who finds this absurd?

As for OP, why is it your responsibility to find time in your HUSBAND's schedule for counseling?????  I promise you if you tell him he has a choice, make time for a 1-hour counseling session a week or brace yourself for divorce, you'll find out real quick if he finds the marriage worth saving.  It sounds to me like he is reluctant about counseling.  If it were a priority, he would find a counselor near his work and take an hour off one day a week.[/quote]

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