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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here : Okay I know how I sound. I do. But nonetheless one could 
Say affectionate brother father etc kissed back of neck and moved hand towards thjngs but never got there. 
And it was a million years ago. I told my dh of that one event he says eh - crossed boundary but 
Could have been worse. But he doesn't know what dd said and he doesn't know there were a few other 
Mild uncomfirtable moments in my experience. [/quote]

This relative is 100% responsible for his actions, so by saying the following I'm not blaming you, but it's CRUCIAL that you understand it:

It may have been "a millions years ago" that this happened to you.  But you have NO idea how recently he may have done it to someone else.  You and your daughter are not the only girls or children in the world.  You have no idea how many other girls or kids he may have tried this with and maybe they weren't as brave backing away.

I know way too much about this issue.  The people who are charming and well-loved are, when they are abusers, are the most successful and most horrible.  Because no one wants to believe it, not even the victims, and often when the victims are brave enough to tell, no one else believes them.

Your job is to protect your child.  While family may know something is wrong, you don't owe anyone an explanation.  Tell them you are feeling like your family wants to spend more of the holiday at home.  Do whatever you need to.  If this is your dad and that's why it's so awkward, you still have the right to alter your holiday habits.  Or tell your daughter that if you do go and spend the night, you will never leave her alone with this person.  And then KEEP YOUR PROMISE and never leave her alone.  Do not let anyone guilt you into alone time.  You don't have to explain, you can just say "no, I'll stay too" or "No, she's coming with me" and just keep on moving.[/quote]

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