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[quote=Anonymous]Find ways to support and build the self-esteem of all your kids, not just the one that is not as conventionally "pretty". Her true beauty is going to come from the inside anyway. Think of all the pretty people you've met who are total jerks or the beautiful women w/crappy self esteem. You can't totally take focus off the physical and I don't think you should try. I think building up somehow that what other people say doesn't mean anything in the long run (e.g., the pretty dress comment) will be most helpful.

I remember very clearly the day my sisters were talking about how my nose was too big, my mouth too wide, and my butt "hanging to my knees"; I was maybe 12. I'm 42 now and it still gets to me.  From other people, I got all the "...and your youngest daughter is so tall and has such nice hair!" comments; they got the "pretty" ones. It f(*&ing sucked and still can get to me on bad days. I wish my mother had taught me somehow about self-esteem and less about the importance of wearing eye makeup. I like Aha Parenting's articles on self esteem: https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=aha%20parenting%20building%20self%20esteem[/quote]

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