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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

She's already tried to poison my relationship with him. It was really bad for a while and he even knows about some of the lies she told to do it, and somehow he still thinks of their relationship as based in mutual honesty and says so. She's moved on to destroying his relationship with other family members now. It's so heartbreaking. Right now I feel like if he reaches out, I'm just a listener, and I try to be supportive without pointing out any of the things I see her doing, but how long can that go on? She's going to break him until he's just a shell. And he's letting her.[/quote]

OP, I think it's perfectly fine for you to talk with your brother and calmly share what you've observed about HIM. Something like...

"Larlo, I'm sharing this with you because I would want someone to do the same for me. You don't seem happy. For example, you used to tell me how much you loved coming home for Thanksgiving. Now, you don't even call. You used to make time for ____ and now you hardly ever mention it. You were passionate about it, and it brought you joy.  One of the things that has always stood out about you is your smile and infectious laugh. I can't recall the last time I heard you laugh or see you smile. You just don't seem to be the content, confident person I grew up with... I want you to be happy. This isn't a dress rehearsal, and I want you to have the life you deserve. What's going on?" [/quote]

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