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Absolutely - that's what I said.  It's not ok for the teacher to have outed OP's daughter.  But, the truth is that if one uses accommodations, others will know they have them.  If your child is getting extra time on a test or taking a test in a quiet environment or typing instead of writing, classmates will know.  It's kind of an added burden that our kids have to deal with.  [/quote]

This. I had these accommodations in a W high school. It really wasn't a big deal. Is there a stigma attached to having accommodations? I also got the extended time/reduced distractions accommodation in college and it also wasn't a big deal.

I don't mean this in the way it probably will sound, but it seems like your daughter needs help with building her self-esteem in regard to her accommodations and the issue that makes the accommodations necessary. For me it was ADD (inattentive type) and I understood that it was a medical diagnosis just like any other, so it didn't bother me if others knew. [/quote]

Up to this point, no one knew she had any accommodations - except seating in second or third row (she didn't want to sit in the front row). But if anyone asked, she said it was because of her glasses.  She never used extended time on tests but last year the plan was to note it on her test and return at the end of the day to finish.  She never used this accommodation.  She has extended deadlines with permission because all her classes are AP/Honors in her school and the work load COULD get overbearing at some points in the semester.  SHe has never used this accommodation either.  They are there jut in case...

You are right - it could very well be a self-esteem issue.  Could you offer ideas on how to improve it?
Thanks.[/quote]

I'm the PP you quoted. It's hard for me to give advice not knowing your daughter. But for me it was such a relief to get the diagnosis after years of feeling like a failure when I couldn't focus on a test or when I would sit in a class and not be able to focus on anything the teacher said because the AC was rattling. I went on meds and got 504 accommodations and it was world-changing for me.

I think the fact that my parents treated it like any other medical diagnosis helped me. It didn't have a stigma attached for me. In fact, my friends used to tease me (in fun) that they were jealous because I got extra time and a quiet place to take tests. Can you do some further digging to see if the problem is the culture within the school related to having accommodations or if it's within her peer group, or if it's an issue of perception for her? Good luck![/quote]

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