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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, it ends, but it is so painful while it is happening. It is heartbreaking to watch a parent with a zest for life reaching the end. I am tearing up right now remembering my own mother clutching at those last days of life. I am continually surprised by how the grief resurfaces.

Take good care of yourself during this time, OP, and know you are doing a good thing, giving your mother all the love and comfort you can during the end of her life. Be very gentle with herself after the end, because while you may feel very fragile for a long time afterwards. Lean on the people around you.

Sending you hugs.[/quote]

Yes, yes - this poster has it exactly right. [/quote]

+1. I was with my father throughout his cancer and then at the end. The poster who says its takes so much out of you is right. Say what you need to say to your mother now. You will be glad you did, even if you think she can't hear you. My understanding is that even in this state they know voices, so she knows you are there. Also, it is normal to be overwhelmed and want to get away from the situation. It is. That's ok. Please ask the hospice nurse what the end will be like, so you are aware: there are signs, such as changes in breathing, that will tell you. Hold her hand, kiss her, be close to her. It's so hard, but you will remember that by doing the hard thing you were doing exactly the most you could do. Hugs to you.[/quote]

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