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[quote=Anonymous]If this were literally the first exhibition of violence or anger and it came out of the blue without warning, that would be cause to possibly give him another chance and to treat it as uncharacteristic.

In this case, this is a markedly escalating situation.  You say that it was already an emotionally abusive relationship, which means that there have been issues of emotional abuse, insults or character degradation, and it has finally escalated to physical violence.  In this case, it is characteristic of the abuser and is cause to leave and protect yourself and your children.  THere is a pattern that has developed and as many, many victims can tell you, it will continue to escalate.  There are very few (possibly none or next-to-none) cases of escalating behavior that either stops or recedes on its own without some intervention or professional help.  Unless you can see some outside force or agency setting up that intervention or enlisting professional help, you can assume that the escalation will continue and sooner or later, there will be another physical incident, possible more severe.  Yes, he may be contrite, but he'll still do it.  Don't let him.

If there is ever any question about whether it is an unexpected, isolated example or an escalating situation, you should trust your instincts.  If your instincts tell you to get away, produce fear, produce anxiety, then you need to trust your instincts and get away first.  You can always reevaluate later (I recommend only doing so with professional help that tells you that there is reason to reconsider), but leave first and protect yourself and children first.  [/quote]

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