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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a DH problem, not MIL. Bottom line.[/quote]

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First, you need to think about what you want to happen. Do you want your DH to tell her to back off? Do you want all communication to go through DH so you don't have to communicate with her directly? Do you want to set some rules about visitation? Once you decide what you want, you need to sit DH down and look him in the eye and tell him again what's going on. He needs to hear you without the distractions of the TV, his phone or computer - this is so important. Pick a time when the baby is napping and you are feeling clear-headed.

You have to be as honest as possible without being hurtful. He will rush to his mother's defense, but you will remind him about your family (you, him, and the baby) and how this is important for all of you. He might not understand right away, but you will need to beat this horse dead. Don't raise your voice, don't get nasty or petty. If you get emotional and need to cry, do that. But don't manipulate the situation. Be honest. Make sure he's hearing you. If it seems like he's not listening, redirect the conversation. Do this now or the next 20 years are going to be unbearable when she's around. [/quote]

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