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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get your husband to stop their comments. They're bugging you and making you uncomfortable. He's fine ignoring them, but you're not. He needs to shut them down immediately, as in "Mom, if you ask about formula again, we'll ask you to leave."[/quote]

Or maybe just shoot them!

Everyone's adjusting.  Keep your boundaries, [b]be firm but kind, and make it clear you're in charge.  It  will help not just them, but you also, to stand firm in the role of parent while with them.  [/b]

There are nightmare inlaws out there, but most of the time folks adjust to their new roles. [/quote]

I think allowing them to babysit occasionally is fine. But NO WAY, don't let them do regular daycare. That would be an absolute nightmare if you're not on the same page.

My mom has a particularly annoying question she asked every time I saw her. I made my opinion very clear, but she still hounded me ("is he STILL using that pacifier?"). Finally I told her "I don't want you to ask me that any more. I'll let you know when he stops using the pacifier." And she hasn't asked me since. Amazing how being [i]very direct[/i] works wonders!

I would answer all their questions directly and firmly. You can let some things go, but if they continue to ask about formula, just tell them "I'm fine without formula. We'll switch to formula when we need to. No need to do it if we don't need to." (Are they worried they can't babysit unless you're using formula?). If they continue to ask, just tell them you'll let them know when you switch, and tell them to stop asking. Seriously. I'm very very laid back about meddling grandparents. I'm pretty understanding of differing parenting styles. But sometimes you just have to tell people to shut it.

And that email? Oh lord. I'd have to think on that one, but either I'd have DH ask them what's up with that. Or I'd do like the above, give a sarcastic "thanks for reminding me to take care of my baby! I'd nearly forgotten!" [/quote]

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