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[quote=Anonymous] If your brother tends to blurt out insensitive things like that, I would make a point of calling him out on it immediately, on the spot, regardless of who's in the room. Stay calm, look him in the eye, and put it on a "etiquette" level without explaining that your feelings are hurt. It may make you uncomfortable in the moment, but if done consistently over a period of time, this is a very efficient method for training people who don't mean to be nasty, but who don't realize how hurtful they can be. Basically, you have to demonstrate stronger willpower and doggedness than he does. I did this with my husband, who has Asperger's tendencies. You can always tell him now that you can't change how he feels, but that his remarks were so egregious that you have to demand he never manifest his preference in front of the kids. In short, " What you said was a big no-no. So watch yourself, or else". [/quote]
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