Reply to Brother proactively told me that my kids are not his favorite nieces

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Brother proactively told me that my kids are not his favorite nieces - do I need to change anything?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He may be just young and stupid. Before acting on it, explain to him that he hurt your feelings.[/quote]

You could do this, but actually I'd forget the "hurt your feelings" part because it's going down a tangent. The real issue is you are worried about it getting out and creating a dynamic with your kids and their cousins. (and hurting your kids' feelings).

I'd say, "Hey Larlo, I was thinking about the comment you made the other day about X and Y not being your favorite nieces.  I don't expect you to like all your nieces equally, but I'd appreciate it if you don't go volunteering this around as it would really hurt X and Y's feelings if they heard this because they really love you.  Please don't punish them because you and I are not as tight as OtherSib.  If you want to address that, let's do it--with each other"

And btw he sounds really immature/angry/jealous/competative/petty and I see why you aren't so tight with him. He is clearly using your kids to get at you, something I really hate.  But sometimes these people (especially if they don't have kids) need to be reminded that kids should be off-limits as weapons in the ongoing adult conflicts. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics