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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm soooo sorry this is happening to you.  This happened to me to.  But my husband stayed.  Then left in a storm for a month.  Then came back.  Fast forward three years and we are separated and I have the three young kids, a job, and while I'm sad that he couldn't man up and deal with real life, I'm much happier. And the kids are much happier.  Our relationship went from all you described, to a high-conflict war zone, mostly because I refused to give up and desperately tried to hold our family together.  Now that I've given his problems back to him, and let him go, it's hard, but better.  And he is unemployed, couch surfing, and sees the kids, but has lost so much.  He still feels like he will find his magic perfect life out there.  Good luck, and I would advise getting your affairs in order.  You can do it.[/quote]

I let my husband go without tears, and took on all of the responsibilities for everything. He danced off, thinking he'd won. Not a chance.

He's a miserable, unrealized human being with nothing to show for his life. The kids think of him as a permissive babysitter, not a father. He tried having another serious relationship, but left her when she became pregnant and then promptly attempted to woo me back. Yuck! He lives in his first ex-wife's condo and does shift work.

He is pathetic. This is the same man who once said to me, "a wife is a wife" as if we were all interchangeable.

Living well is the best revenge, my dear. My children are thriving and adore me. They are mostly well-behaved, smart, and happy. None of this would be true if he were still around to brow beat, actively neglect, and undermine as he did before he went off in search of his happiness.

People say it takes a man to raise a boy to manhood. Nope. Plenty of great, loving, caring, loyal, strong men have come from female headed households. Don't be kept captive in a marriage so lacking in appreciation.

Also, who's to say you won't find your soulmate once Mr. Selfish Big Kid is gone?

Leverage his desire to leave for the things you need in order to maintain your lifestyle, like the house and increased child support. Since he values this soulmate so much, let him sacrifice for her.

Best of luck and please do update your fellow DCUM community members on how this pans out.
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