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[quote=Anonymous]Short version: I tried it. Didn't work. Divorced now.

Longer version: Ten years earlier, after he said and did some awful things, I started packing. After a few days of seeing boxes fill, he begged for another chance. He [i]volunteered[/i] to get counseling for his anger and blame issues. Largely for our kids' sake, I agreed.

Ten years later, he had still never been to counseling. We would have happy periods, but it seemed like after each happy time, the bad points would get longer and lower. He did some more awful things. I gave the "counseling or the kids and I are gone" ultimatum. He waited until the absolute last second before making an appointment, which was a clue in itself.

He started seeing the counselor by himself, and we went together. [i]He did not do a single thing the counselor advised.[/i] He wouldn't try to change at all. He just got angrier because I was "making him go," and counseling was "not helping, anyway."

[i]I[/i] tried my best to learn from counseling, but one-sided doesn't work. After more than a year of counseling, we separated. We've been divorced for years now, and he's still the same. I have changed, though! [/quote]

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