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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, people do change when they get old.  It sounds like you don't like the guy your dad has become. Fine. But it's a little misguided to act like he has no control over that. [/quote]

Its not even that simple. Sure, there are changes he might have gone through regardless due to age. That is an x factor here. What is NOT an x factor are these established facts:
[b]1) If it was really important to HIM to spend time with his granddaughter, then he would.[/b]
2) If it were really important to HER that he spend time with his granddaughter, then he would.

That is the rub. That is what makes is so unpleasant at best. Her directive is always the override. Regardless.

Ive had a family member witness what happens when he suggests seeing me. She fills up his schedule on whatever day he proposes to visit me. If he persists even in the least, she starts to passive agressively make him miserable. None of it is overt, but the message gets through.

Its all textbook. Doesnt make it easier to live with.[/quote]

I'm sorry, but you have your answer right there. [/quote]

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