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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again, and thanks, I will relax about this. My view may be colored by the fact that I had a roommate in college, and this was in the 80s, who talked to her mother every day, at length. This woman was emotionally stunted in some ways and it just didn't seem like a good thing. I also think there is something to the idea that my generation of parents has been over involved in our children's lives.

I am particularly heartened by the posts that this level of contact diminishes over time. Don't get me wrong, I miss my daughter. But I also get a great deal of joy from watching her out in the world exercising independence and I want to see that continue.[/quote]

OP, it's really good to be aware of this. I talked to my mom a lot in college and was emotionally stunted because of it. Other factors also played into it. The most important thing is to have a healthy relationship. It sounds like from your original post that your daughter shouldn't rely on you so much. It's hard being in a new place, especially if her close friends are at other schools.

Above all: encourage DD to make friends! And if she ever comes to you with a dilemma, ask what her friends think about the situation. If she hasn't told them yet, then encourage her to do so (as long as it's appropriate). Refrain from gossiping with her about her friends. You don't want her to be that girl who is always on the phone with her mom or other non-school friends and therefore has no time to make friends there.[/quote]

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