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[quote=Anonymous]It's nice to have a choice you're secure in, when there are many that you/I/we all probably second guess.

I had a similar thing happen to me, except he told me all the stuff about himself (and was honest) - I hadn't looked him up since we split.

Ex boyfriend contacted me out of the blue probably 3 years after we split. We hadn't had any contact, at all, since the breakup. Told me he was getting divorced (near as I can tell he must have married the next woman he dated after me), was in therapy, was exploring relationship patterns as part of that. Therapist (allegedly) told him he had unresolved issues with me, so he sent me an email apologizing for the things he did wrong in the relationship, etc. That was all fine and good, I told him I was sorry to hear of his marriage ending, gave him props for at least trying to work on things in therapy, and basically wished him luck.

That opened Pandora's Box. He then wanted to know whether I was married/seeing anyone/whether I still thought of him, etc. I didn't reply. He sent about three more emails after that, increasingly direct - why wouldn't I answer questions about my current relationship status, was I just scared of the feelings I still had for him, etc. etc. I never answered any of them, and eventually he stopped trying. While the therapist may indeed have told him he had unresolved issues with me, I doubt any good one would have condoned him basically harassing me after I replied wishing him well but expressing zero interest in any further relationship. [/quote]

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