Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Family Relationships
Reply to "Obligated to have visits with not nice in-laws when there is a new baby?"
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait, I just saw the bit about her not talking to you for three months. Nope. Don't feel obligated at all. Enjoy your vacation with DH, let DH handle all comms with his mom, and wait until he mentions wanting to see her.[/quote] +1 This is what we do. It is MUCH easier. MIL has always somehow thought we would defer to her (we let her think so, but we don't actually do it). We do what works for us. MIL is NOT at all helpful with the children, she doesn't really act like a MIL (which is fine) - a mother (not fine), or a grandmother (also not fine). MIL laid her bed, so she can lie in it. You owe her nothing, OP. Don't defer to her just because she's "old", or DH's mother, or whatever. That's BS. If she wants respect she has to give it. Period. MIL gets off on "jabbing" me; and could not care less about who I am (probably because she has so little identity of her own). I let it flow off my back - think water on a duck's back! Really, give it no weight whatsoever, and decide who matters in your life. MIL = no. DH = yes. Easy. Also, I an REALLY sensitive to the vacation thing, because we are in the same boat. I'll be damned if I let our only vacation time be the beach week from hell with MIL, in a place I don't even like! Plan your own vacations, tell DH where you are going as a (nuclear) family. Done. Whomever started the beach week from hell idea of cramming as many people as possible into a house should be shot. For the record. [/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics