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[quote=Anonymous]Just want to say that I am going through the exact same thing right now.  However, after almost a year of sobriety my DH fell off the wagon recently and came very close to losing his job, as a result.  I cannot believe I'm still putting up with this but we have children and I truly love him.  We are going the couple's therapy route with an addiction specialist.  I think the hardest part for me is this feeling that no matter how good things SEEM to be going, there's always that possibility that he could drink and it could have catastrophic results.  When he drinks he binges and drives...blacks out.  Very dangerous situations.  I struggle with my anger (wow, such an enormous amount of anger) and hurt.  Also the lack of trust makes things very hard and unfortunately can lead to resentment on his part.  And yes, I agree, the recovery really is a very self-centered approach, from what I've seen so far.  In some ways I can understand that, as he really does need to get himself well.  At the same time, he has a family that he needs to be responsible for and accountable to.  He has to figure out how to either balance the two for the sake of those he loves.  I just make sure to be as compassionate as possible to him, and offer him a lot of positive recognition of his progress.  I also told him point blank how angry I was and how he had to earn my trust back, but that I would not keep reminding him of the past, so to speak.  [/quote]

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