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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do have interests beyond marriage - we both live full, complete lives as individuals, I don't have to be attached to his hip. However, my interests aren't relevant to this post, so I didn't see any need to mention them.[/quote]

Actually, they are. What do you plan to do with your life together?

We got engaged at the 7 year mark, and we had shared goals and discussions already. Several years in we both agreed upon educational goals, and one of us completed a graduate degree. We waited because we wanted to be financially stable  and able to move towards those shared goals in ways that marriage gave more protection. For instance, we got married at the 9 year mark, and had a house, another degree, and were contemplating pregnancy within a year.

What scares me about your post is your lack of shared goals. We had agreed where to live, outlined what we saw as our priorities and saved together, and considered ourselves a family long before marriage and engagement. I don't get that sense from your post. [/quote]

Correcting typo and adding one thing - when our engagement happened , it was not a surprise. We had already discussed marriage and when to move towards it, and even though the proposal itself was a surprise and romantic, it was not the first time we had discussed it. [/quote]

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