Anonymous wrote:
He was only the second man I have ever slept with, plan for him to be my last.
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were together for 8 years before we got married, 7 before we got engaged-also got together in colleges. But in our case, we both felt to young to get married, but both knew we were headed on that path. It's not completely uncommon to be together for a long time if you get together when you are young.
That said, it sounds like he has very little respect for you-and that's not a good road to go down. If he's frustrated by your differences now, and putting off an attitude where he he thinks you are dumb-that is not going to get better with marriage.
Anonymous wrote:The way you describe things, it sounds like the relationship is winding down. Your interests have diverged as you've gotten older. It's nobody's fault; it just happens. I will say, though, that stalling until he has a "stable income" is the oldest line in the book. Good luck.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do have interests beyond marriage - we both live full, complete lives as individuals, I don't have to be attached to his hip. However, my interests aren't relevant to this post, so I didn't see any need to mention them.
Actually, they are. What do you plan to do with your life together?
We got engaged at the 7 year mark, and we had shared goals and discussions already. Several years in we both agreed upon educational goals, and one of us completed a graduate degree. We waited because we wanted to be financially stable and able to move towards those shared goals in ways that marriage gave more protection. For instance, we got married at the 9 year mark, and had a house, another degree, and were contemplating pregnancy within a year.
What scares me about your post is your lack of shared goals. We had agreed where to live, outlined what we saw as our priorities and saved together, and considered ourselves a family long before marriage and engagement. I don't get that sense from your post.
Anonymous wrote:I do have interests beyond marriage - we both live full, complete lives as individuals, I don't have to be attached to his hip. However, my interests aren't relevant to this post, so I didn't see any need to mention them.
Anonymous wrote:Seven years out of college and makes $40K? And thinks 6 figures is just around the corner?