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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To be honest the only thing I have observed between them is her ordering him around and him scrambling and scraping to do whatever she asked. I gave her a pass during pregnancy but this has continued after their child was born. It's very awkward to witness.[/quote]

This is a pretty strong judgment without context.  Sometimes, one partner will simply abdicate responsibility for taking care of the kids, home, etc.  They're willing to do work when told to do it, but won't take any responsibility for remembering that things need to be done and plan for them.  My husband can be like that, when we're out places he'll never think about things like making sure they kids get lunch at a reasonable time, the toddler who slept poorly the night before gets a chance for a nap, bathroom stops for the preschooler, diaper changes, make sure the kids have water if we're out somewhere warm, etc.  It's all on me to do the work of planning and preparing and making sure these things happen.  I'm sure it times it comes across as me ordering him around, but underlying that is a frustration that I'm having to take on all the responsibility for keeping track of it, and not feeling like I should have to plead with him to do what obviously needs to be done.  Just do it.

All of this ultimately brings us back to earlier questions, though.  If she's generally just a bossy bitch, why are you friends with her?  If this isn't her usual behavior with people, what is it about her husband/their marriage that brings it out in her?[/quote]

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