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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Critical of parenting = my FIL complaining my children are too energetic, that they eat better when they are with them (inlaws kept them for 2 nights), that I cannot discipline them well, that they have bad manners, Etc

Critical of me = I don't talk to them and engage them enough  that I am boring  that I don't look them in the eye all the time, etc.

My children are very energetic, this is why I stopped after 2, didn't want to risk a 3rd like this,  ILs constantly say the kids are exactly like DH was as a kid, just need to run run run run, talk talk talk talk.  Energetic isn't necessarily naughty, they aren't being terrible.  They just need to be outside a lot.  And they are disciplined, systematically, routinely, etc.  I am not a pushover with kids.  I don't let my kids call the shots.  They are expected to behave, face consequences, I follow through.  But they do need a ton of physical activity because I can't understand why they have so much energy all the time.

I am very introverted, quiet, don't need to talk a lot.  Ironically my parents can't understand where my kids came from because according to them I was super calm all the time.

I now think they may have always thought this way.  [b]I cried to DH about it. I guess I am too sensitive. [/b] He said he does defend me (so I said why are you defending me. What did I do?) but he also said he doesn't see his parents often and doestnt want a war breaking out over this.

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You aren't being too sensitive.  If I did all that you did for the in-laws, and I found out they felt that way,  Iwould also be hurt and cry as well.[/quote]

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