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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do I do? I enjoy long conversations with my ILs, learning more about my husband's roots. We play card and board games. I am happy to see the joy that my children bring them and to see them interact. They have flaws, but they aren't things I need to bother myself with or get all worked up over. Mostly, I'm thankful that we are all able to get away together at the beach and know it won't always be an option as they age. This year will be particularly special since my FIL just got diagnosed with cancer.

I have some relatives who are horrible people -- racists, crazy, etc. I don't vacation with them and don't understand why in the world someone would if their relatives are so horrible. You sound really spoiled and ungrateful to complain about a vacation on the ocean, for goodness sake. Get some perspective about real problems in the world.[/quote]

Not really.  Some people try, and trying makes it worse, it makes nasty and bitter people act more well, nasty and bitter.  Be grateful if you have not experienced this.  Do you know what it is to be so grateful?

Do you know what it is to have a great, fun family, yourself?  You told us yourself that you do not know this great feeling, yet you try to deflect on me, OP. Thanks for your oh-so-kind words, shallow assumptions and pretension - as if you know anything about me.  You must be a peach to vacation with!  And you are assuming that anything (at all) brings such people joy?  That is a rather tall reach, especially without you asking anything about the rather depressed, self centered IL's.  But I digress. How would it make you feel if your DH refused to be around positive people; and insisted our only vacation, since we have so little vacation time, is with people who really don't care if he is around or not?  Kind of like your own family.  The BIL's in DH's family resort to drinking all day, which I don't do.  If I could, I wouldn't, because I have to tend to the children, because no one else talks to them, sadly.

Yes, we all have our own intricate and detailed issues not seen on these threads, so it would be impossible to draw any conclusions, other than *perhaps* from the direct issue at hand.  Can you possibly bring yourself to focus on the issue at hand?  Or is it all about you?

One of my many, many gratitudes today, is being grateful I don't have to spend any time with you, PP.  Yet, you sound so much like my MIL - peculiar, no?  Interesting, she looks for fights, also - much like you.  I am merely looking to cope with people like you and her.  Thanks for the inadvertent warning.

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